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February 2016

BPD and the Nice Guy Personality Type

BPD and The Nice Guy Personality Type

Most people know that women with traits of BPD or borderline personality disorder share certain personality characteristics that create the behavior patterns we associate with the disorder. But what you might not know is that the men who enter relationships with women with […]

December 2015

Identifying Traits of BPD In Women Before Relationship Commitment

Identifying Traits of BPD In WomenBefore Relationship Commitment

In this blog post we are going to be answering a very important question. Can a man who has been through a breakup with a woman with traits of BPD, or borderline personality disorder, recognize the traits in the next woman he […]

November 2015

Breakups With Women With Traits of BPD – Five Misconceptions That Keep Men From Letting Go and Moving On

Breakups With Women With Traits of BPD:Five Misconceptions That Keep MenFrom Letting Go and Moving On

A breakup with a woman who engages in behaviors associated with BPD or borderline personality disorder during a romantic relationship may be one of the more painful experiences a man can go through. Many […]

October 2015

Romantic Idealization And Devaluation In Women With Traits of BPD

Romantic Idealization And DevaluationIn Women With Traits of BPD

If you are like most men who have found themselves in a committed relationship with a woman with traits of borderline personality disorder or BPD, you probably started off feeling like you were the luckiest guy in the world. Here was […]

September 2015

Marriage Entitlement – When Your Spouse Takes Too Much Or Gives Too Little

Marriage Entitlement – Part 1
When Your Spouse Takes Too Much Or Gives Too Little

Attitudes of Entitlement
In this blog series we are going to be taking a look at a very common problem in marriage. We are going to be addressing the situation where one spouse feels entitled to either […]

July 2015

Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Humiliation

Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Humiliation

Part 4 of the blog series Disarming Defense Mechanisms

In Part 4 of this blog series we will be addressing the kind of defense mechanisms that can cause true human devastation. When feelings of humiliation are triggered by insecurity, defense mechanisms can go underground and […]

Disarming Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Shame

Disarming Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Shame

Part 3 of the blog series Disarming Defense Mechanisms
In Part 1, When We Hurt Those We Care About, and Part 2, How To Stop Defensive Behavior, we discovered that the most common reason people use defense mechanisms seems to be to cover up […]

May 2015

Defense Mechanisms Part 2: How To Stop Defensive Behavior

Defense Mechanisms Part 2: How To Stop Defensive Behavior
Disarming The Defense
In Part 1 of this blog series, When We Hurt Those We Care About, we learned about defense mechanisms and how every one of us uses them at times in order to protect ourselves from uncomfortable thoughts, feelings and […]

Defense Mechanisms: When We Hurt Those We Care About

Defense Mechanisms: When We Hurt Those We Care About
The Mechanism Behind The Defense
Defense mechanisms seem to be one of the more mysterious aspects of human interaction. Most of us make the common assumption that defense mechanisms must be so psychologically complex that the average person doesn’t stand a chance […]

April 2015

Women With Traits of BPD – Why Can’t She Say I’m Sorry

Women With Traits of BPD: Why She Can’t Say I’m Sorry
When She Won’t Admit She’s Wrong

In this blog post we are going to take a look at what is really behind this painful behavior pattern in women with traits of BPD. Once you understand the true motivation […]