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Did Your Ex-Girlfriend Have Traits of BPD-The Defense Mechanism of Projection

Did Your Ex-Girlfriend Have Traits of BPD-The Defense Mechanism of Projection

In this blog post we will be addressing one of the more complex behavior patterns associated with BPD, or borderline personality disorder. The behavior pattern we will be looking at is commonly known as projection. Although you may not […]

Women With Traits of BPD – Why Did She Lie?

Women With Traits of BPD – Why Did She Lie?

In this blog post we are going to be addressing the coping behavior of lying and why women with traits of BPD or borderline personality disorder so often engage in it. Although lying is not part of the criteria […]

Did Your Ex-Girlfriend Have Traits of BPD – How To Let Go of the Good Times

Women With Traits of BPD:How To Let Go of the Good Times

Breaking up with a woman with traits of BPD or borderline personality disorder can be very painful. But one of the toughest aspects of these breakups is the persistent longing to get back that feeling of ultimate fulfillment […]

Identifying Traits of BPD In Women Before Relationship Commitment

Identifying Traits of BPD In WomenBefore Relationship Commitment

In this blog post we are going to be answering a very important question. Can a man who has been through a breakup with a woman with traits of BPD, or borderline personality disorder, recognize the traits in the next woman he […]

Breakups With Women With Traits of BPD – Five Misconceptions That Keep Men From Letting Go and Moving On

Breakups With Women With Traits of BPD:Five Misconceptions That Keep MenFrom Letting Go and Moving On

A breakup with a woman who engages in behaviors associated with BPD or borderline personality disorder during a romantic relationship may be one of the more painful experiences a man can go through. Many […]

Romantic Idealization And Devaluation In Women With Traits of BPD

Romantic Idealization And DevaluationIn Women With Traits of BPD

If you are like most men who have found themselves in a committed relationship with a woman with traits of borderline personality disorder or BPD, you probably started off feeling like you were the luckiest guy in the world. Here was […]

Marriage Entitlement – When Your Spouse Takes Too Much Or Gives Too Little

Marriage Entitlement – Part 1When Your Spouse Takes Too Much Or Gives Too Little

Attitudes of Entitlement

In this blog series we are going to be taking a look at a very common problem in marriage. We are going to be addressing the situation where one spouse feels entitled to either […]

Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Humiliation

Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Humiliation

Part 4 of the blog series Disarming Defense Mechanisms

In Part 4 of this blog series we will be addressing the kind of defense mechanisms that can cause true human devastation. When feelings of humiliation are triggered by insecurity, defense mechanisms can go underground and […]

Disarming Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Shame

Disarming Defense Mechanisms Triggered By Shame

Part 3 of the blog series Disarming Defense Mechanisms
In Part 1, When We Hurt Those We Care About, and Part 2, How To Stop Defensive Behavior, we discovered that the most common reason people use defense mechanisms seems to be to cover up […]

Defense Mechanisms Part 2: How To Stop Defensive Behavior

Defense Mechanisms Part 2: How To Stop Defensive Behavior
Disarming The Defense
In Part 1 of this blog series, When We Hurt Those We Care About, we learned about defense mechanisms and how every one of us uses them at times in order to protect ourselves from uncomfortable thoughts, feelings and […]