high conflict behavior

Consultant/Developer and Teacher of The Nicola Method

Joanna Nicola
Joanna Nicola


Joanna Nicola graduated from New York University with a B.F.A. in 1979. She has taught Linklater Technique, a method that allows people to work through emotional blocks, at Carnegie Mellon University, New York University, Hofstra University, Hebrew Union College and Mills College. She has also taught workshops in the New York Greater Metropolitan Area and has worked with people privately teaching them how to use this method in New York and California where she presently resides.


I am a consultant and an educator who helps people understand emotionality. I have in the past taught techniques that help people move past emotional blocks and am presently working as a consultant teaching a method that shows people how to reverse high conflict behavior in their relationships.

In response to the recent extraordinarily high number of women who upon entering relationships lose their ability to regulate their emotions and who engage in negative, high conflict behaviors, I have developed a method for partners of high conflict women that allows them to lower their partner’s emotions along with language designed to overcome the hidden insecurity that causes these negative behaviors.


I teach the partners of high-conflict women the skills they need not only to lower the emotions but also to identify what is really behind the anger of a high conflict partner and how to address the hidden issues that their partners are hiding from themselves that cause them to act out in such destructive ways.

All of my work is completely non-confrontational. I am not a psychologist or a therapist. I teach a method that is natural, based on my understanding of human emotionality, that when used gives comfort and control back to a partner who has lost her balance and is saying and doing things she does not mean. Although your partner will feel better when you use this method, there is no need for her to know that you have done anything more than say a few casual phrases that fit into any high-conflict situation.